Londel Jay Birge

Obituary for Londel Birge (“Jay”)

With hearts full of love and sorrow, we announce the passing of Londel Birge, known and loved by many as Jay, who transitioned from this life on December 31, 2025, at the age of 44. Born on June 18, 1981, Jay walked this earth with a quiet strength, a gentle heart, and a loyalty that never wavered.

Jay was the kind of man who didn’t need to speak loudly to be felt. He showed love through presence—by showing up, by checking in, by standing beside the people he loved when life got heavy. He had a calm way about him, a familiar laugh, and a sense of humor that would sneak up on you at just the right moment.

He loved his family deeply and fiercely. He was especially proud of his son, Ze'mier, who was his heart outside of his body. Jay loved being a father—offering guidance, protection, and unconditional love. Everything he did, he did with his son in mind.

Jay was a devoted son, a loving brother, an uncle who cared deeply for his nieces and nephews, and a man whose presence made people feel safe. He shared a special bond with his sister Teresa and loved her four children as if they were his own. Family meant everything to him—not just by blood, but by connection, history, and shared life.

He is survived by his loving mother; his son; his older sister and her children; his brothers and his sisters and his nieces and nephews; and a family who will forever feel his absence and honor his memory.

Though his physical journey has ended, Jay’s spirit lives on—in our memories, in our laughter, in the lessons he taught simply by being himself. He now rests with the ancestors, free from pain, wrapped in peace, and forever watching over those he loved.

Words for Jay’s Son Your daddy loves you. Always. Even though you cannot see him right now, your daddy is still close. He is with you when you wake up. He is with you when you feel calm. He is with you when things feel big inside. Your daddy knows your heart. He knows your smile. He knows the way you are. You did nothing wrong. You are safe. You are loved. When you feel warm, that is your daddy. When you feel calm, that is your daddy. He is proud of you. So proud.

Your daddy will always be with you.

Always.

A Letter From Daddy To Ze'mier:

Hi my baby. It’s Daddy. I’m right here. I know you feel things in your own way. I always knew that about you. And I love you exactly as you are. You didn’t do anything wrong. I am not gone because of you. I am always with you. When you feel calm, that’s me holding you. When you feel warm, that’s me close by. I see you. I know your heart. I am so proud of you. You don’t have to talk for me to hear you.I hear you without words. I always did. Be gentle with yourself, my son. You are safe. You are loved.You are my greatest gift. I will walk with you every day, even when you can’t see me. Forever your Daddy.

A Letter to Mom

Hi Crazy Lady, It’s me. Your baby.

I need you to know first—I’m okay. I’m at peace. You did not fail me. You never did. Everything you gave me mattered more than you know.

Thank you for loving me the way you did. For the sacrifices I saw and the ones I didn’t understand until now. For your intentions, even the quiet ones you whispered when you thought no one heard. I heard them. I still do.

I carry you with me. Your strength is stitched into who I became. When I stood tall, that was you. When I kept going, that was you too.

Please don’t carry guilt in your heart. Please don’t replay moments wondering what you could have done differently. You gave me love. That was enough. That was everything.

When you miss me, talk to me. When you feel me near, trust that feeling. I am closer than you think—wrapped around you in calm moments, sitting beside you when the house feels too quiet.

Take care of yourself for me. Smile when you can. Rest when you need to. Love on my son and the family the way you always have. That love keeps me alive in this world.

I will always be your son.

Nothing—not even this—changes that.

I love you, Mom.

Forever your son Londel.

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